三月收到 Parents magazine 時跟留留一起檢視過這二十五條 manners, 留留需要 work on #3 and #24. 他的 napkin 常常吃到一半就流落在地上某處很難留在膝蓋上.近來我們努力的部分除了幫助他建立 good work standards and habits, 還有一小項要提醒的就是每個月帶留留去好一點的餐廳練習接受他人服務時的進退應對,現在家裡煮得多常常會忘記這件事.在家都是他 serve and set the table. 他很會擺整套餐盤餐具(informal table setting, 還沒學會加 dessert spoon and cake fork, plus wine glasses 的 formal setting, 對 table setting 有興趣的請見此網站), 這樣一講馬上知道家中平常用餐沒酒沒甜點.
還有就是我自己需要努力的部分.我有個小小的心願,希望以後留留離家後有幾味媽媽味可以想念,現在的我很認真煮飯(和學煮飯),學習營養知識,幾個常用的好網站有
http://www.prevention.com/health/
http://www.livestrong.com/healthy-eating-guide/
http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/index.html
用 vitamix 榨各式蔬菜果汁,注意小朋友的 daily supplement (multi-vitamin, probiotic, flax seed, sunflower seeds and all sorts of nuts), 以前煩惱 system simulations 裡的 convergence problems, 現在想著食材要如何搭配才能顧全 nutrition 和 taste, raw food 和 cooked food 的比例,除了顧到 food pyramid 還有 food diversity...I know it's getting lengthy here. I better stop now. 下面的 list 就是九歲前應該學會的 manners...
Helping your child master
these simple rules of etiquette will get him noticed -- for all the
right reasons.
By David Lowry, Ph.D.
Your child's rude 'tude isn't always intentional.
Sometimes kids just don't realize it's impolite to
interrupt, pick their nose, or loudly observe that the lady walking
in front of them has a large behind. And in the hustle and bustle
of daily life, busy moms and dads don't always have the time to
focus on etiquette. But if you reinforce these 25 must-do manners,
you'll raise a polite, kind, well-liked child.
Manner #1
When asking for something, say "Please."
Manner #2
When receiving something, say "Thank you."
Manner #3
Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
Manner #4
If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
Manner #5
When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.
Manner #6
The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.
Manner #7
Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
Manner #8
When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
Manner #9
When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
Manner #10
Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering.
Manner #11
When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
Manner #12
Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
Manner #13
Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
Manner #14
Don't call people mean names.
Manner #15
Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
Manner #16
Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
Manner #17
If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
Manner #18
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.
Manner #19
As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
Manner #20
If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new.
Manner #21
When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
Manner #22
When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
Manner #23
Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.
Manner #24
Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
Manner #25
Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
Originally published in the March 2011 issue of Parents magazine.
感覺私立學校相對重視孩子的禮貌行為等 其實也是不錯喔! 謝謝孩童營養的網頁跟食譜 我很需要ㄋ VITAMIX實在是蠻不錯的幫手吧!
manners 應該是家庭教育的一部分,學校(k-12)是不會教的. Vitamix 真是太好用了!
有個問題請教，你是把probiotic 還有nuts 也一起打進去果汁裡。他們願意喝ㄇ? 有時候我是有放nuts 可是只要多放一些supplements 他們感覺到味道就哇哇叫 放了 yogert 也還是會被發現!
我打的果汁只有蔬菜水果,芹菜的味道可以被草莓香蕉蓋過. nuts 是直接一把一把吃的, yogurt 也是直接吃. probiotic 有時候放在牛奶裡有時放在果汁或水裡,幸運的是兩個小孩沒有不吃蔬菜的問題,只是我要記得隨時提供這些東西.
我也是大多打蔬菜水果類(其實是在對付營養不均的爸爸，還加入精力湯的三寶幫助消化)，小朋友好像只要香蕉草莓味道蓋過去都會喜歡耶!我家姐姐只要是洋式蔬菜像是紅蘿蔔芹菜生吃都可以，中國人煮出來的蔬菜就要凹很久，小靖以前是個菜食動物，最近卻連豆子也不吃，好奇怪!前幾天還鬧便秘，有點傷腦筋。 你的probiotic 買的是需要存放冰箱的，許多人說其實現在有膠囊鎖住也行，這次在台灣看一些產品也標榜可以在室溫，價錢稍便宜，你有些研究ㄇ。這種東西好像都不知道真正吃出來的效果。 最近小米慢慢又大些，真的感覺家庭教育或者你說閱讀等等，是家裡要培養的。只是有時候看著公立教育提供的辣大熔爐環境，多少想著如果孩子相處的朋友與其家庭簡單些，實行上相對當然障礙少點，話說回來，我們也是在公立學校長大，學著真正社會即便如此吧。B學校有著MANNER的評估，至少是很棒的ㄋ!
哎呀你完全搞錯了!這個 manner list 是從 Parents magazine 來的,評估是我跟留留看著雜誌討論的,從頭到尾跟學校沒關係呀. 我家的 probiotic 有兩種. Udo's choice 需冷藏, Culturelle 是室溫的.我不知道為何台灣室溫的益生菌比較便宜, Culturelle 比較貴耶!
阿是喔 我又租心大意的 別介意 我常想我這種租心大意的性格怎麼養孩子阿 希望孩子不會遺傳到我的注意力不集中 台灣就是甚麼東西都可以惡性競爭倒很便宜!